“If you are not my friend, I won’t tell you to stop smoking. Bro, I hate that smell. I dislike your body scent, your cigarette, but I like you personally,” told me to a friend of mine, AS, 25-year-old, a male smoking lawyer.
“When was the first time you start smoking?” a basic typical question I asked to start a chit-chat.
“Some years ago, when I was finishing my thesis.”
“How was it? Are you stressed out? Is last semester of college giving you such a big pressure of life?”
“Hmm… Not that difficult. It’s’ just I’m staying with my friends who are smoker. I tried a bit and I just keep doing it until today.”
“So, you are addicted to it?” judged me to him.
“Well, I’m not addicted. I just get used to it.”
“You are not addicted. You are just get used to of it,” told me re-saying his words, stating but at the same time asking.
“How could it be? What’s the difference?”
“Addictive is something like… If I don’t smoke, I will be dizzy, I will be sick f cigarette, miss it like a lot, I really need to smoke and feel the white smoke blowing through my nasal cavity. But getting used to of it means, I only get used to of sucking it. When for example I don’t have enough money and or time to smoke, I won’t be dizzy or feel any kind of sickness.”
I nodded but still continue to asked, “Okay then, why do you still smoking? Why don’t you change it to something else?”
“Change to what?” he automaticlly reply me without even thinking.
“Candy maybe,” then I saw him in silence.
Then we both laugh. “Hi deer, not dear, how can it be substituted by candy? It doesn’t have any smoke sis. It can’t be changed. Besides, I need it to and or build relationship, either with my Clients, another lawyers, judge, police officer, or any other kind of networking. It is the only time everyone can sit and enjoy relaxing time.”
Then as I write this article, I realize that, for AS and may be any other smoker who do smoking because of the above reason, smoking might be their unique way of having a new/good networking.
But for me and probably another non-smoker person, our ‘smoking’ is running, reading, dancing, writing, listening to music and any other similiar cheerful things!